bad family member

bad family member knows the birthdays are coming. but they don't happen in reality. because bad family member has created a completely new reality. so because these birthdays don't come into reality, bad family member doesn't buy birthday presents, send birthday cards, plan birthday treats. birthdays go unnoticed. birthdays go unnoticed as go illness, pain, new cars, births, deaths, marriages, first words, basketball victories, boyfriends, new jobs, and the whole other reality which bad family member doesn't live in anymore. because bad family member is very good at dissociating. at letting go. at forgetting. which is bad. but this is bad family member, and this is what they're god at. this and feeling sorry for themselves for being a bad family member.